I teach training classes nearly every week for business professionals and entrepreneurs on the topic of how to communicate through clothing and appearance. How do you come across to others, and does that correspond with who you are and what you stand for? During these classes, we make the connection between your personal characteristics and your (desired) job.
A lot of participants are often unaware of the impression they make. Like one woman this week, Janet, who was wearing a plain cotton shirt buttoned all the way up and heavy glasses, with her hair pulled back. She came across as hard, strong and distant. But she said she has an open, energetic and friendly personality. So, the exact opposite of how she wants to come across!
I asked her if people tend to respond to her differently than she expects. Her answer was yes. But she did not understand the effect her choice of clothes has on others. She hadn’t yet considered that you can effectively influence how people see you.
I invited her up to the mirror to show her how she could make herself more visible as the person she really is with just a few simple adjustments to her outfit. With a top in a softer fabric and slightly lower neckline, her hair loose and glasses in softer color, she looked much more balanced, open and feminine. While still showing her strength. That is how you get people to see and hear you the way YOU want them to!
Carina van der Kloet is founder and personal stylist. She has twenty years experience. She has given numerous master classes and personal styling advice to thousands of people including management, executives, entrepreneurs, expatriates, diplomats working at various (international) organizations.
Carina van der Kloet grew up in French speaking countries in Africa and in the United States. She speaks English, French and Dutch.
"Carina van der Kloet is an inspiring speaker! With striking examples of how clothing works for you, she knows how to create a pleasant and intimate atmosphere. Great to see how you can create impact with few words."Miranda van Mondfrans, director Pro Assistance BV